“In Shamanic understanding, all words are spells. Everything we think or say cascades into reality. When I repeat to myself the thought that I’m not that smart, or beautiful, or deserving, I’m literally cursing myself. Those thoughts go out into the world and bring me situations and outcomes that prove the thoughts. Let’s watch our words today and become aware of how words affect our bodies and our lives.” – Shaman Tube on Facebook
A few people have asked me if I know how to cast spells. I think these questions usually come from those who mistake shamanism for witchcraft or who have encountered the shamans we call sorcerers, who use what they know to manipulate others. There are shamans who know how to do overt spellwork and will gladly accept money to perform magic of this sort. I’m not one of them. I only work with permission. To tinker with another person’s energy without their knowledge– for romance, power, material gain, or even to help with healing – brings a lot of heavy karma I don’t need.
I’ll use a made-up romance as an example, but this premise applies to anything: jobs, money, family drama, and people you don’t like.
Let’s say Jill is interested in drawing love into their life. She’s got her eye on Max and really wants to send a little romance juju in that direction. She wants a love spell, but my job as a healer would be to work with Jill. I won’t focus on Max because Max isn’t the one in my office. His life is none of my business.
With Jill, I’d aim to clear whatever hasn’t been working for her. Is she having the same kind of relationship over and over again? Does she find herself attracting the same kind of guy every time? Does she feel unworthy of the ridiculously amazing Max—or is he actually not so amazing, and she’d be settling for this guy who doesn’t treat her well? With this information, we’d begin to shift, reframe, and redirect those energies within her. That shifting happens with the healing energy of a session or ceremony, clearing her house of everything that reminds her of those patterns, working with affirmations and visualizations…there are many time-tested tools that we could call upon— and none of them involve Max.
So rather than manipulating Max’s energy without his knowledge, I’d help Jill harness hers. Hopefully after that, she’d carry herself differently. She’d be more available for genuine love and attract a different kind of person. Maybe that could be Max, sure. But maybe it could be someone even more perfectly suited to her.
This strikes me as much more exciting and adventurous approach to romance.
Much as we might try, we really can’t control how another person feels or behaves. When we assume that we can, we’re met with disappointment and frustration. It’s like banging your head against the wall and then wondering why you have a headache. To work on ourselves, to shift our own energy, habits, speech, body language, and beliefs, is far more productive and we can do it independently of others. This work – the work of the yogi/shaman/healer – leads us to deeper understanding of exactly what will serve us best and how to manifest it for ourselves.
You don’t have to know the exact results. Happiness could be grander, bigger, and even more beautiful than you imagined. Spells are too small for the possibilities of your own collaboration with Spirit.